Archive for the ‘Gender Fluidity’ Category

Envision a world with out a gender binary (FTX)

March 19, 2010

I hope and wish that the world will soon evolve to a place where there is less and less need to define gender as a binary. No more commanding our children to subscribe to be either /or, this/that. Where a person as the freedom to choose their clothes with out pressure to conform to any specific gender.

Imagine a level of acceptance that transcends definition, and allows people to be appreciated for who they are, in context of a more fluid space of existence. Where gender neutral pronouns are accepted as familiar, normal, and with out prejudice. Where not knowing a person’s gender is not grounds for a reaction of insecurity, apology, or violence.

How long will it take until we will live in a world that allows for the wonderful and wide spectrum of gender expression? 5 years? 10 years? 30 years? If we keep working hard as activists, and educators, it can happen sooner.

Should I be taking the time and the rist to explain “it” to my brother’s kids, to my employers, to my parents and grandparents?

It would be nice if the general population appreciated that there was a gender continuum, but at the same time I don’t want to feel obligated to define myself at some location on said gender continuum.
Can’t we exist on all keys of the zylophone, and move around on it as we feel inclined? That is how music is made. That is how empathy is created. We try on different perspectives, it is part of how we evolve into more humane people. An enlightened, evolved human being understand others as they allow themselves to feel a wide range of emotion, a wide range of perception, see through the many colored lenses.  Looking at life from above, and below, from the dominant and the submissive, from the perspective of privilege and the the perspective of needing means we are truly multi-spirited, we are closer to becoming one with all that is.

So, here is my challenge to myself: I would like to always allow myself and others to be as fluid with their gender as they would like to be. To be free to move around with their gender day to day, week to week, year to year. To do this I imagine I/we all have to become more aware and conscious of the ways in which I/we judge people especially at first glace.

Imagine a gender ambiguous person such as myself, going into a bathroom with out stress of being condemned or attacked. Where security isn’t being called and a guard is not knocking on the stall. Where women noticing (me), are not clutching their children tightly and exiting quickly. Where there are no angry silent glares.  Or even when people don’t walk out to make sure they are reading the sign on the door correctly.

Where it’s all good…


Callen Lorde – An Excellent Health Center for Gender Queer People in NYC

March 19, 2010

I went to Callen-Lorde Community Health Center for the first time yesterday.  As an FTM I have found that most doctors struggle to understand my gender identity. Although I find most doctors well intended,  I have experienced several doctors displaying a high level of general ignorance to gender queer issues. Those doctors who are not downright hostile, seem more curious to examine me as an oddity than interested in really hearing me and helping me out.

So going to Callen-Lorde was amazing – in a good way!

I was NOT treated with the usual form with check box questions of: male or female. They totally acknowledge “gender queer” people and were very respectful about it. I found the whole experience quite pleasant actually despite being nervous about having to pay for it with out any insurance. (The fee was more than reasonable.)

This Health Center exists really to help underserved populations. For that reason if you have some form of decent health insurance they probably won’t take you. They are really there to serve those who have no health insurance.

My Doctor was Irina Linetskya, MD. She was excellent.  She was unusually kind and friendly to me, unlike most doctors who seem mildly angry at my existence. She was smart, respectful, and well informed. I highly recommend her and all the health care professionals I was lucky to meet at Callen-Lorde.

Here is the info from their website:

Callen-Lorde Community Health Center is New York City’s only primary health care center dedicated to meeting the health needs of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender communities and people living with HIV/AIDS,
regardless of any patient’s ability to pay.
We are welcoming to all, regardless of sexual orientation or insurance coverage.